I’m not a writer but I love to express things that intrigue me or inspire me. Something that really inspires me is life and the journey it takes you on. While aimlessly scrolling through Facebook the other day, I came across a Huffington Post article titled, “20 Thing You Need To Accept About Your 20’s”. The article gave a brief summary of certain things that you need to face and come to terms with when you are in that eventful period of life. The article touched on things like losing friends, obstacles in your career path, body changes, relationship “whoa’s” and several other common pit-stops you may encounter as a young adult. As I was reading through all of those factors, the one thing that all of them had in common, was change. Change is an inevitable process that we all have to go through in order to move forward in our lives. Life itself is a series of changes and transitions and I’ve come to realize that your twenties is the most prominent, defining, changing phase of your adult life.
After I read through the article, I sat there and thought back to twenty-one year old, Laura. Twenty-one year old me was a completely different person than I am now at twenty-seven. When I was twenty-one, I was dating a twenty-nine year old, womanizing drug dealer who had multiple kids with different women[yeah I know!]. I was very impulsive and terrible about making decisions. As a person, I was struggling in this religious bubble. I couldn’t find the balance between being a “good Christian” and being a human with flaws. Six years ago, you could never tell me I was wrong. I had tunnel vision and there was nothing that anyone could say to me that would make me open my mind…until life happened.
My mindset slowly shifted throughout the numerous turn of events in my life; the good, the bad and the ugly. As I moved through the mid twenties, I eventually came to the conclusion that I must live my life. So I dated a few losers, I made some bad wardrobe choices, I got burned by a couple of “friends”, worked at a few dead-end jobs and made plenty of mistakes in between. I now understand that each and every experience was necessary and I don’t regret making any of those decisions.
If I didn’t date “the womanizer”, “the mama’s boy”, “the artsy cynic”, “the eclectic weirdo” or “the angry man”[whose names will not be mentioned!], my heart would have never been able to experience true love and what a good man feels like[<3!]. If I wouldn’t have made that careless decision to move to Oklahoma with only a duffle bag and $80 to my name, I wouldn’t have met the most amazing friend in the world[love you Ray! If I never tried new things and made some major fashion “no-no’s”, I would have never figured out what works for me and what makes me beautiful. In the end, it’s all about trial and error.
As I digress, going through my twenties has been one of the most colorful, fulfilling times of my life. I have about three years left and I must say that I have enjoyed the ride[and it's not over!]. My twenties experience helped me to discover my passions, my shortcomings and my womanhood. I encourage you all to do the same. It doesn’t matter if you are twenty or even twenty-nine…make it your business to take advantage of such a time as this, because you’ll never get the chance again. Write your story, live out loud and enjoy the possibilities!
Written by my awesome friend: Laura R. Jordan